A quick note about the Pulse

I want to share something with you about this space, about The Pulse.

In a world where I’m constantly told to write shorter captions, be more edgy, create more scroll-stopping hooks, and chase attention on social media…
this is not that space.

And that’s intentional.

I believe part of what’s happening in our businesses and on our teams right now is that we’re losing perspective in all the noise.
We’re distracted.
We’re reacting.
Sometimes we’re even losing touch with ourselves.

And to be clear, I care deeply about innovation.
I study the market.

I’m constantly learning, testing, and using new tools, including AI, in my own work.  

But this space is different.

If you can’t actually do something with what I share here, I’m not publishing it.

That’s why these Pulses may feel a little longer.
That’s why they come out every two weeks.

Before I send one, I ask myself:
Is this something you can use?
Is this something I’m seeing work in real life?
Will this help you move something forward?

If the answer is yes, it goes out.
If not, it doesn’t.

Sometimes I’ll share behind-the-scenes work.
Sometimes conversations.
Sometimes things I’m seeing across leaders and organizations.

Always with one goal:
to help you advance your mission and live well along the way.

Let’s build something that lasts.
Let’s make an impact that matters.

And let’s model that kind of leadership for our teams and our families.

That’s what this is about.  So let's dive in....

The Invisible Leaks Holding Leaders Back

When Leaders come to me feeling stretched, overwhelmed, or quietly exhausted, I don’t tell them to push harder.

We zoom out.

Because in my experience, leaders are putting in so much effort, they work really hard already....and yet they feel stuck.

They’re stuck because time, energy, and focus are leaking in ways they can’t see anymore.

And once those leaks start, everything feels harder than it should.

Over time, it usually shows up in one of two ways:

1.  Either they’re exhausted from carrying too much for too long.

2.  Or growth has quietly slowed.

Opportunities aren’t opening the way they used to.  And they don’t fully see it until the business, or their own progress, starts to stall.

In both cases, the root issue is the same.

Time, energy, and focus are leaking in ways they can’t see.

If any of that feels familiar, you’re not alone.

I see this pattern over and over again with smart, capable leaders who care deeply about their work and their people.

And the good news is: it’s fixable.

You don’t need to overhaul your life.

You just need clearer visibility into what’s really happening.

In my advisory work, we usually begin in three places.

So here’s where I’d like you to start this week.

If you do nothing else, give yourself 20–30 focused minutes with this.

It will tell you more than another podcast or book ever could.

1️⃣ Where Is Your Time Quietly Leaking?

Not where you think it’s going.
Where it’s actually going.

Try this:

For the next five days (or even just three), write down:

• Your meetings

• Your major tasks

• Your interruptions

• Your “quick favors”

• Your problem-solving time

Ask yourself:

• Which of these truly moved the business forward?

• Which could someone else handle?

• Which exist out of habit, not value?

Circle anything that no longer belongs at your level.

That’s your first leak.

2️⃣ What Are You Still Carrying Alone?

Most leaders are holding far more than they realize.

Decisions.
Conflicts.
Processes.
People issues.
Strategic questions.

All sitting in their head, often unnoticed.

Try this:

Write down the three biggest decisions you’re currently responsible for right now.

Next to each one, ask:

• Who should be learning how to do this?

• Who could own part of this within six months?

• What am I holding because it feels faster, not because it’s right?

If everything still runs through you, growth will always be limited to you.

Once you see what is really happening, you can start changing it.

Without intentional offloading and space, leaders lose altitude.

They become immersed in day-to-day execution and disconnected from emerging risks, opportunities, and patterns.

Over time, this clouds judgment and weakens decision-making.

3️⃣ Are Your Priorities Actually Driving Results?

This is where many strong leaders get stuck.

They’re busy, committed, and showing up every day.

But the work isn’t translating into the outcomes they want.

Ask yourself:

If only one thing improved in the next 90 days, what would change everything else?

Revenue?
Leadership depth?
Structure?
Strategy?

Write it down.

Then look at your calendar.

Does your time reflect that priority?

If not, your schedule is quietly working against you.

When leaders walk through this with me, they almost always say:

“I didn’t realize this was costing me so much.”

Not just in time.

But in energy.
In momentum.
In opportunity.
In peace of mind.

The good news?

Once you can see it, you can redesign it.

This is the work I love doing with leaders, helping them step out of survival mode and into a way of leading that works.

If this reflection sparked something for you, that’s not an accident.

It usually means you’re ready for a different level of clarity and support.

We don’t add more to your plate.

We redesign the plate.

More on that soon.

For now, sit with this question:

Which of these three areas needs your attention most right now — time, ownership, or priorities?

Let’s build leaders and companies that last.

Consistency Feeds the Nervous System More Than Perfection Ever Will

Most of us were taught to think about food in extremes.

On track or off track.

Good days or bad days.

Healthy eating or "starting over Monday."

But the body doesn't experience food in extremes.

It experiences it in patterns.

What actually supports energy, clarity, and emotional regulation isn't perfection, it's consistency.

Consistent meals tell the nervous system: you're safe.

You don't need to stay on high alert.  You don't need to compensate.  You don't need to overcorrect later.

When meals are unpredictable: skipped, delayed, overly restrictive, or wildly fluctuating, the body responds by staying vigilant.  Blood sugar swings.  Stress hormones rise.  The system prepares for scarcity, even if food technically is available.

That vigilance shows up in subtle ways:

• Stronger emotional reactions

• Difficulty concentrating

• A sense of urgency or pressure that doesn't quite match the moment

• Feeling on "edge" without knowing why

This is where perfectionism quietly backfires.

Trying to eat "perfectly" often creates inconsistency: long stretches of restriction followed by depletion, overcorrection, or burnout.  The body doesn't read this as discipline.  It reads it as instability.

Consistency on the other hand creates trust.

Eating regularly, even if the meals are simple, imperfect, or repetitive gives the body a rhythm it can rely on.  That rhythm reduces background stress.  It frees up cognitive and emotional energy.  It makes steadiness possible.

For leaders, caregivers, and anyone holding a lot, this matters deeply.

Consistency with food supports consistency in presence.
It becomes easier to stay regulated during hard conversations.
To pause instead of react.
To lead without constantly pushing through depletion.

This isn't about optimizing meals or "doing it right."

It's about removing unnecessary strain from a system that already carries a lot.

When the body knows nourishment is coming, it stops bracing.

When it stops bracing, we gain access to more patience, clarity, and resilience.

That's not a wellness trend.
That's infrastructure for sustainable leadership.

Because showing up well over time depends far more on being consistently fed than being perfectly disciplined.

Who We Are

At Modwellship, we're focused on building leaders for today's enviroment; leaders who live well make sound decisions, move people, and build careers and businesses that last...
and leave a lasting impact.

Not quick fixes.
Not surface-level mindset work.
Real habits, systems, and support for the season you're in.
We work with leaders and business owners who are serious about building themselves, being their best, and leading well whether they're growing a team, influencing from where they are, or building something of their own - and who want support that translates into real results and a life that actually works.

If that's you, we'll find the right fit through the Collective or focused 1:1 advisory.

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